Aura of INFJ Women

I (INFJ/M) have had the luck of being able to spend time with a couple INFJ women in my life and I wanted to share my observations.

I've spent time with two, but I'll talk about one that I worked with for a couple years -

AURA

Without saying a word she could command a room. Not sure if she even realized it but the difference made even without speaking was palpable. I've never seen anything like it. She was just so present, it brought an intensity to the group - we were more productive in our meetings and whatever we were working on was more efficient if she was there.

The men in the office were in love with her, quite literally multiple people professed their love for her during the couple years we worked together. And if they weren't romantically interested in her, pretty much all the men were drawn to her energy and wanted to be friends.

Interestingly, the same can't be said about the other women in the office. For some reason a lot of the women didn't like her even though from my perspective the hate wasn't justified at all, she was just quiet and kept to herself for the most part. (I have theories as to why this is but would be curious to hear your thoughts!)

The other INFJ women I've spent time with had the same energy. Quiet but confident. Intimidating and beautiful. They had the same effect on men AND women! (but small sample size, maybe just coincidence)

I'm not trying to make this about looks, bc it's not at all - but it's worth noting that the INFJ women I've met were not like supermodels or anything.. so they weren't getting this attention on looks alone. The attraction men had for them was so much deeper. How could these guys NOT fall? To have someone read your soul and truly see you is such a rare and beautiful, almost holy, thing.

They were both somehow attractive and INTIMIDATING! Strong energy. Unlike the INFJ men I've met, who were MIUCH more warm and open to conversation with anyone.. the INFJ women were more guarded. Life experience probably taught them to be that way which is fair I get it.

just my 2 cents thought I'd share. Of course every INFJ is different and my experience with meeting them irl is limited, so take all this with a grain of salt. But I'd be curious to hear from other INFJs and see if this lines up with your experiences too!