Had to attend FILs wedding during our honeymoon…

Looking back and feeling a little salty about how the multi wedding fiasco went down in our family last year.

My husband and I got engaged in November 2023. We had our date set and venue booked before the new year rolled around, and sent out save the dates shortly after. Our wedding date was set for May 2024 and we decided to honeymoon in Maui. We booked non-refundable tickets because we figured hey this is our honeymoon we are definitely going so might as well get the cheaper rate. It was a fairly short timeline but we had fun planning and the day itself was amazing with only a few minor hiccups.

Well about a month before our actual wedding date, my soon to be husband’s father announced that he was engaged to someone none of us had ever met. We were a bit surprised but even more astonished when he told us the wedding date was exactly 1 week after our wedding day…when we were still supposed to be on our 2 week long honeymoon in Maui.

At first they asked if we would just come home early for the wedding and when we said no they decided they would just have the wedding in Maui. So most of the family was at our honeymoon destination for the whole time. We actually ran into them quite a few times which was annoying. AND we had to attend his dad’s wedding in the smack dab middle of our honeymoon.

At the time that this all happened I felt like I wasn’t allowed to be upset about it. But honestly I felt like they kinda stole our moment a bit. Aside from intruding on our honeymoon, we also had guests cancel last minute to attend his dad’s wedding after we had already paid for our guest count. His soon to be wife was constantly comparing her wedding to mine. She compared our dresses, our rings, our venues, etc. Which hers was always “better” because they had a lot bigger budget than us. She even came into my dressing room on the big day acting like “mother in law of the bride” and made my husband walk her down the aisle to her seat.

Overall just kinda feeling sour about how that all went down. At the time I really really felt like I wasn’t allowed to be upset and was just being selfish for feeling the way I did. Is that normal?